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does anyone know how to put a child to sleep who won't go to sleep?! the last three nights have been hell. i'm done. i give up. again, and again and again and again. all the books say it's good to have a bedtime routine. we have that. it's good to have a set nap time and nap every day, we have that. it's good to have the same bedtime every night, we have that. she's not scared, because i'm right there, she's not hungry or thirsty because she drinks a gallon of breastmilk. she's not hot or cold because i can feel her temperature. her diaper isn't too tight, she's not itching or twitching. she's not flailing about like she does when it hurts to nurse because her teeth are coming in. WHAT IS IT!???????????????????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! one night it's teeth, the next perhaps a disagreement with food, the next it's because she coughed and that ended the slip into sleep which was about to happen. i jiggle my arm to make her mattress "vibrate", i sing, i hum, i'm silent, i do the shhhhhh sound. i try to reason, i try to encourage. i rub, pat, tap her back, i do nothing but lay there. i pretend to go to sleep. i try not to strangle her stuffed animal. she has a "lovey" to keep her company and to hug. she has me to keep her company and to hug. have i left anything out? have i tried everything but letting her cry and cry and cry until she throws up and gives up and passes out? or, should i let her stay up until she's really overtired and actually wants to sleep? actually, she'll stay up until 11:30 i know. maybe i should let her stay up all night and sleep until 12pm...that way we'll be all messed up. HUMANS ARE NOT NOCTURNAL DAMMIT! i give up. again.